It is all well and good that westerners think they can just marry for themselves but at the end of the day your family is still there and you grew up with your family so even if you don’t visit them or you estrange yourself from them it doesn’t mean you are free from them. You proved to everyone who’s reading this that you actually know nothing about Korea. I honestly relate to this. Do some research on the Japanese cultural mindset before you assume anything to quickly. 볼까? Which Japan have you been to? It’s so fun reading your experiences. Frankly speaking the immense popularity of all those south korean dramas overseas which portray their men characters as very soft /gentle /kind hearted /of course tall/ handsome and rich ..and women characters as hardworking /affectionate/family caring etc etc etc .have created a huge picture of perfection regarding south korean men and women Its the reason why you had a better experience in Japan. I have a different opinion in a way. Okay, my next post. On another website, one Asian male expresses: “It’s definitely harder for an Asian male to date a white female than for Asian females to date white males. Thanks for the lead :). How’d you two meet? But in general Asian men are more well behaved than their white and black counterparts. Being thin and pale, also as you said about making one’s own ideal of beauty seems a little off. I write wrong on wang its eventually it’s want, Hi im South AFrican how can i get korean guy. But i know i can only keep dreaming about that coz i know it wont ever happen and it makes me sad. He seems very sweet & attentive so, interested to see where it can lead. *****. Myth 9: Asian guys never make the first move. :P. When it comes to dressing up, well, we don’t dress up for dates. His lifestyle of being a business man and the working hours were cleared when I met him in person. Tokyo is the best! South Korea men do not respect women. Please note I have mentioned *many* in all places and not generalised anything for a whole lot. Unfortunately, boys are boys – even in Korea. Very logical and does not shy away from an argument. Koreans I find more passionate. It just means they’ll flush red with a little alcohol in them. Even before we started living together, we didn’t actually put on too much effort in keeping up with our appearances. Very protective and sincere. That’s just some of the differences for there are a lot more! Matrimony between a couple in Japan is pretty much taken seriously unlike in America where divorce is never difficult. I mean the whole crying is a sign of weakness isn’t just an Asian thing. yes like me i`m independant lady i hate to ask always. This made it hard for me to adapt to ABC guys that were texting 2,3 messages per day or every two three days because Korean guys will text you every day. Notify me of follow-up comments by email. 245 Replies to “The 11 Differences Between Dating an Asian Guy vs a Caucasian Guy” Angela says: May 31, 2019 at 6:59 am I am black women, been dating all races and from my experience white > asian > black in terms of point 11. Hi Khethiwe again from South Africa .when im in date of korean guy i espect .Respect .,love ,care olso ramance treat like me as quen. I find there style to be pretty cool. Every time I blamed him that he changed and not only about appearance but also the behavior. I am a fully spanish woman raised in United States. Japanese are very polite. There are programs here in the Philippines instituted in Korea and trust me, their Mathematics isn’t that simple. Japan’s old-fashioned ways are slowly being broken apart by the youth there which is a blessing because the ideals of a traditional Japanese family are rather misogynistic, patriarchal, and lean towards fascism. Theories explain that this dates back to the nature of Confucian teaching – where displaying one’s emotions publicly is not encouraged. They have to also look cool, nice hair, nice clothes, be tall, be in good body shape…and now …for real??? And yes they do lie on the dating sites so chat away to get to know the real person. If korean society want to keep the balance of these things, and don’t push korean guys to meet foreigner women i totally understand . Girth is much more important and in terms of girth Asians top the charts with the largest being Chinese. You see that Hollywood scramble to include Asian actresses, such as Mulan, but they are still reluctant to include Asian actors. Maybe this is the thing that makes me prefer Asian guys now, I don’t mean to be racist but this is what happened to me and all of these are based on my experiences lol, *All men are attractive tho, this is just my opinion! Ok, well until they’re married at least. I see countless of these discussions, but the source of the issue mostly boils down on who is controlling the media. Koreans are more into mainstream kpop fashion and surgery, pale skin and mainstream kpop influenced clothes while Japanese are into all kinds of different types of fashion and making handmade clothes, hippy eclectic looks, etc. Because this is engrained at such an early age, this may cause some Asian men to continue withholding emotion as they grow up. You will receive mail with link to set new password. This phrase carries an odd mix of varying sentiments that ranges from being responsible, protective, to having more power, status, and right. But that doesn’t mean its all roses and butterflies; there are also things that are particularly stressful when dating Korean guys. But after we married I had the impression that I married another guy…totally! Japan started the war stupid. I happened to have a direct report at work (let's call her Amy) who is from Yanji, the Korean city in China. I’d say in terms of behavior Asians and Hispanics are the best behaved and they really look out for their women. Would you mind if I used your post as a comparison for differences and similarities? Japan really does prefer cute, more than any other country in the world. His parents are in the province and introduced me by face chat. Asian culture emphasizes family and collectivity, so it is quite the norm to take care of your parents while living under the same roof. I think breakups rarely end in good terms among Korean couples. When you find happiness, treasure it. The good news for Asian males is that as online dating is becoming less and less taboo, there are a lot more asian dating sites ready to help make meeting potential matches easier. I have a Korean boyfriend but honestly I haven’t met him at all. On the Korean side, if the relationship remains casual (confined to adventures in the front seat of his Tico) then the whole thing can be pretty cool. Wow, you put a lot of thought into this. What I personally appreciate no kissing in public and no holding hands like to announce to the world being a couple. You will find all sorts of people in both countries, open and obstinate individuals as well. you are japanese, isnt it? You just have to look at Visual Kei bands. I get the idea of this topic being important. When a guy is older than a girl, the girl refers to this guy as “Oppa.” But it really doesn’t matter how old you are, because if a guy is interested in you, he’ll try to act like an Oppa anyways. I honestly don’t know how to act haha… he contacts me very little so I always talk first..Should I stop? Hehe. Many also call you every day. And I can agree that korean men do move along fast in relationships. No one cared that my friends and I were foreign, and we didn’t seem to be inconveniences to anyone. Historically, women are always expected to give up their family when they marry, and sometimes their country. She had been seeing a man of two weeks and told me that it was the “equivalent of two months on the outside.” By that she meant that that heightens all of the emotional baggage we all bring into relationships in Korea. then get money at anime expo,comic con,disneyland on a date etc. Regardless, it’s good to see guys putting as much effort into looking nice and “dolling” up, but they would expect you to do the same. They hold their bags, they are drivers for them. Also there must be a reason K-pop is so popular in Japan, I really believe that fashion and beauty is a huge factor to it. Japanese guys less gentlemanly, cheap and more reserved. Good luck to you all. The tolerance of acceptable interaction with the opposite gender is vastly lower for couples in Korea. On a positive note, though, I see this changing a bit. It’s just important to learn the “norms” of the dating eco-system your love subject is part of to avoid misunderstandings. – When walking on the sidewalk, they always make sure they are on the outer lane closer to the cars, – They will take off their coat for you in cold weather. My first was terrible because he moved way too fast and was saying I love you within a couple weeks. respect and love. Men checked my friends and I out several occasions, and it felt really nice. Koreans tend to speak better English. I’m a Japanese-Filipino and my name is in Filipino, only translated in Japanese letters. So what is the answer? But lately I just find myself more and more curious by him. I have been dating mine for some time and we have been living together for four years and a half. You don’t need to text every day, celebrate each recurrence..they seem to be more laid back. This one’s starting to come around. Japanese and Korean women dress very well. This isn’t the norm in Korea. First of all, I’ve met a TON of my boyfriend’s friends and most of them love me immediately after I prove to them that I can take a joke. Many people interviewed had never said those three words, and one 56-year old commenting “Saying it aloud is embarrassing for me.” Of course, even in an upbringing where being emotionally expressive is not encouraged, one can still learn how to communicate feelings despite the odds. Thanks for letting us know your a Cali girl, I am, too. The flush doesn’t mean they’re lightweights first of all. This can be a bit frustrating, but girls often expect the same from guys so it’s a mutual thing I suppose. I believe texting over phoning is a global trend. True. Also, living with a romantic partner pre-marriage is generally looked down upon, which is another reason why many asians wait until marriage to move out. My observation is that many Korean American girls of the current generation actually prefer white guys over other Asian races, including their own. It’s definitely a fun experience! It seems like Korean guys are in demand because many of my single girlfriends have been telling me how much they’d like to learn Korean just to date Korean boys. It’s like a dog with a bone that it’s not chewing – just because it doesn’t want that bone, doesn’t mean it wants another dog to take that bone. The correlation between America and Korea is much more vast than the similarities between America and Japan. When walking down the streets of Seoul, you will always notice that there is a beauty store literally on every corner. Not all, but surely many Korean boyfriends will ask to check your phone, kakaotalk or what-nots. But before that everything we talked about was still normal and he acted normal for the most part. I’ll try to keep up on this blog to see what others have to say. Yamato Nadeshiko, the traditional ideal of Japanese feminine beauty, puts a lot of emphasis on being docile, being soft. He was quick to ask me to be his gf and later wife. Japanese don’t like to talk about controversial topics. So I’m here today to dispel (or confirm) some of those myths, but only according to my own experience. And the guy does hold his liquor well. You get used to it. Since Caucasians can no longer control the media around the world as the Chinese economy progresses, Caucasians can only control local media so the world is more balanced. ;] hi i am from India … well after getting inspired by kpop i was too searching for korean guy ;]. Through my experience I have to say he is a gentleman. Hello! We met on one of dating sites. False. Myth 4: Asian guys have better manners. If you wanna have an asian bf, better go with a chinese/taiwanese/hk guy, they are much honest and loyal. I mean, Obama didn’t apologize for Hiroshima, but the koreans are getting supposed “rape victims” from Nanking to weep in the most crippling, disturbing way to buy affection….